
Turning off RNDIS mode is the key. I have been hunting forever on the problem and I found the fix on another forum. Worked for me. I'm re-posting it here just to say thanks and spread the solution... tech karma, if you will.
http://www.pocketpcmag.com/cms/forum/topic/26436
Been looking for the answer for weeks & weeks, like many, many thousands of others. Here's what I've found.
The root of the problem is that ActiveSync 4.x switched to an RNDIS TCP/IP connection method, rather than the old, reliable serial USB. Hence, if you're using firewalls or A/V solutions that in any way fiddle with your TCP/IP interface, ActiveSync would fail. Fail here means "no partnership," "could not connect," etc. etc. etc.
There is a method to change BACK to the old USB serial connection. Some phones/PDAs have the USB-to-PC connection icon & you can turn off "advanced network options" (approximate wording) in there. My HTC PPC6700 did NOT have this icon, so I was DOA.
I went to HTC's website, specified my phone & carrier & downloaded "ActiveSyncMode.sa.CAB." I downloaded it using a WiFi connection, direct to my phone. You could also save it to your SD card & launch it from there. It DID NOT LOAD on the first try, although the file launched. I did a soft reset and tried again & it worked. After install, there was an "ActiveSync Mode" icon under Settings. I switched the connection type to USB Serial and ActiveSync is currently humming away, synching up my media files.
So, find the "ActiveSyncMode.sa.CAB" download at your carrier's or your manufacturer's website. Contact their Tech Support if needed. Get it onto your phone via web or storage card. Load it up (soft reset if necessary) and live happily every after.
I found the ActiveSync Mode info on a Windows Mobile developer website -- not easy to find. So, if you have accounts in other forums where this topic is discussed, please repost this entry there. I intend to repost this in a few places, but wider distribution is better. There are lots of people trying hard resets, disabling firewall SW, etc., without getting anywhere